Saturday, June 5, 2010

Because I am 36?

I have a great doctor (general practitioner) that I have seen for many years and respect her. Yesterday I went in to see her after finding out a couple of days earlier that I was pregnant. She asked me if I had an obstetrician in mind but as this is my first, I am rather new to it all and asked for her recommendations. She also said I would probably have to have a c-section because of my age (36). When I indicated I was pretty keen on having a "natural" birth if at all possible, she said most good obstetricians would not "humour me" for the sake of the baby's health. However she then tried to ring obstetricians who would "humour" me (she must have said this at least 3 times!) and get me on their books. No-one was available, they were all fully booked out (mind you, I am only 5 weeks pregnant, how do people find out any earlier?!!). She then had to book me in with an obstetrician that she herself used. She did try to reassure me that because she had previously worked in a maternity hospital and worked with the seriously ill babies, she had a particular view of it all. I understand that with all these pregnancy hormones I am pretty sensitive at the moment however given the number of friends who are my age and have not had to have a caesar, I am a little confused. We didn't want to tell anyone yet but I did ring a friend, asked her who her obstetrician was and have booked in an appointment (yes he had space!). I am just wondering if anyone else has been given this advice by their doctor? She said it was based purely on my age. I'm confused. My doctor said she understood that she understood that I would want the "experience" but in my shock I didn't explain that it was more about I couldn't imagine caring for a new baby having just undergone major surgery. If I need to have a c-section then that would be fine but I can't imagine that this needs to be decided now at 5 weeks or could be based simply on my age.


  1. Not to be blunt, but your Doc is a moron. How dare she insinuate that your desire for a non-surgical birth is selfish/dangerous? If you are in good health, and the only concern is your age (which in my humble opinion is decidedly not advanced!) you absolutely can and should have a natural birth. Unnecessary C-sections carry with them a whole host of disadvantages for both mother and baby, not the least of which that you will have to recover from major surgery.

    I am so sorry that you had this experience and that you are feeling shocked and confused, but I commend you for seeking out other opinions besides your doctor's. Trust your gut, do your research, and realize that there are much healthier alternatives to the mainstream, obstetrical status quo.

    Congratulations on your pregnancy!

  2. Thanks Leigh, your blog has been a great inspiration to me

  3. Im in disbelief that your doctor had that attitude. Seriously I didn't know age would even come into it.
    I think you have every right to feel upset.

    Stuff your doc. I have read from top down, so happy to see that you found an ob that you are really happy with. I bet he was all for a natural birth!